Anne Heche May Not Have Forgiven Her Anti-gay Mom, Who Denied That She Was Abused as a Child

As Anne Heche disclosed the traumatic events of her childhood, one of which was the alleged sexual abuse at the hands of her father, she made it clear in a number of interviews that she had no intention of making amends with her deeply devout mother. Heche claimed that her mother ignored the abuse, despite the fact that she was outspoken against homosexuality and criticized Heche for her relationship with Ellen DeGeneres.

If that reconciliation was never able to take place, then Anne Heche and her mother Nancy Heche, who is now 85 years old, have missed their opportunity. The actor, who was 53 years old and died over the weekend, was driving her blue Mini Cooper at a high pace down a residential neighborhood in Los Angeles one week prior to her death when she smashed into a tiny house and started a fire in both the house and the automobile.

According to the New York Post, Nancy Heche has outlived four of her five children, all of whom passed away due to sad circumstances. With Heche’s passing, Nancy Heche has outlived the last of her children. Donald Heche, a Baptist pastor and choir director, was married to Nancy Heche for a long time before he passed away in 1983 from AIDS. Nancy Heche outlived her husband for a significant amount of time.

Cynthia, Heche’s older sister, passed away at the age of 2 months due to a heart abnormality. This occurred before Heche was born. Nathan, Anne’s younger brother, lost away in a car accident at the age of 18 three months after Donald Heche had passed away. Susan Bergman was the second sister, and she passed away in 2006 from brain cancer.

According to what Anne Heche claimed to The Guardian about her connection with her mother, the two of them ceased communicating after 1997, when Anne Heche began a public relationship with Ellen DeGeneres. In the same year, Ellen DeGeneres and the character she played on her successful sitcom “Ellen” both came out as homosexual, which was a watershed moment in the history of television and a significant step forward in social progress.

In the year 2000, Heche gave an interview to The Guardian in which she said, “I was drawn to her, and she was drawn to me.” “Everything was finished, and I was turned upside down and inside out at the same time. Nobody else mattered.” But according to what Heche stated to the Tampa Bay Times and The Guardian, her mother, a Christian psychologist based in Chicago who incorporates the Bible into her counseling work, was concerned about her daughter’s sexual orientation, the New York Post said.

Heche said to the Tampa Bay Times that her mother thought the fact that she was seeing a lesbian was a “sin.” According to The New York Post, Nancy Heche admitted that she was incensed when her daughter revealed to her that she had developed romantic feelings for a female friend.

“I am plummeted into disbelief and outrage,” Nancy Heche stated in her religiously-themed 2006 memoir, according to the Post. “I am dumbfounded, in a state of shock. Doesn’t Anne know what homosexuality has done to our family?” “How will we ever be able to close the gap, the avowed heterosexual mother and the avowed homosexual daughter?” Nancy Heche added.

Anne Heche May Not Have Forgiven Her Anti-gay Mom
Anne Heche May Not Have Forgiven Her Anti-gay Mom

After her involvement with Ellen DeGeneres, she went on to have a child with the cameraman Coleman “Coley” Laffoon, whom she wed in 2001 and was married to until 2007 when they divorced. Their son, Homer, is now 20 years old. She also began a relationship with Canadian actor James Tupper in 2007, which lasted for a decade and resulted in the birth of their son Atlas, who is now 13 years old.

She was also romantically involved with Liz Brixius, the co-creator of the television show “Nurse Jackie,” as well as the actor Thomas Jane. After Heche ended her relationship with Ellen DeGeneres, suffered a well-publicized collapse in her mental health, and wrote about her traumatic childhood and her father’s sexual abuse in her memoir “Call Me Crazy” published in 2001, the distance between Heche and her daughter grew wider.

According to the Daily Mail, Heche stated in the book that her father was a gay man who kept his sexual orientation a secret from his wife and four children. Heche’s father would sneak out of the house at night to visit gay bars in their hometown of Aurora, Ohio. She further claimed that her father, who most likely suffered from schizophrenia, had sexually abused her from the time she was a toddler until she was 12 years old.

During an interview with Barbara Walters in 2001, Heche stated, “He raped me… he fondled me, he put me on all fours and had sex with me.” Heche revealed to Walters that her father was the source of her genital herpes and that she later felt he was also the source of her HIV infection. Heche claimed that her mother may have or should have seen evidence of sexual abuse when she was a youngster and her mother was changing her diapers. Anne Heche was abused sexually when she was a toddler.

Heche also said that her mother, “a good Christian woman,” would never encounter her husband. “She didn’t ask questions. She didn’t scream. She didn’t yell.” According to the interview with Barbara Walters, even when Heche began acting professionally and her career began to thrive in the late 1980s, first on the soap opera “Another World,” and subsequently in major Hollywood films, she was still troubled by her history.

She added that after years of counseling, she confronted her mother about the sexual abuse that had been committed by her father. Heche shared her story with Walters, saying, “She hung up the phone on me.” “To have gone through so much work to heal me and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me broke my heart. And at that moment, I split off from myself.”

As Heche stated in the interview and in her biography, she was speaking about the splintering of her psyche, which caused her to experience periods of psychosis and the beginning of her experience with hearing voices.

According to a report in the New York Post, Nancy Heche’s mother had a negative reaction to her daughter’s autobiography, writing in her own journal that she found “no place among the lies and blasphemies in the pages of this book.” Nancy Heche also said: “I am trying to find a place for myself in this writing, a place where I as Anne’s mother do not feel violated or scandalized.”

According to the Los Angeles Times, in 2004, Anne Heche was given the opportunity to work through some of the traumatic experiences she had as a child by portraying the abusive and alcoholic mother of a 16-year-old girl in the Lifetime TV drama “Gracie Choice.”
“Gracie’s mom was fun and great-looking and none of the things we associate with people who are verbally and emotionally abusive,” Heche said. “I was thrilled that Lifetime wanted to show the truthfulness of that reality.”

In the latter part of the interview, Heche went more personal, saying things like, “I always wondered if my mother was conscious – if you can treat children that way and still love them.” What I realized while working on the movie is that it is impossible to love someone while behaving in a manner similar to that of the woman in the movie or of my own mother. It was a weight lifted off my shoulders when I realized I needed to address this issue head-on.

According to, in 2009, Nancy Heche seems to have softened her stance toward her daughter’s relationship with Ellen DeGeneres. In the same year, Heche acknowledged in an interview that she didn’t take her daughter’s coming out very well.

Nancy Heche expressed regret, saying, “I’m sorry I didn’t know how to deal with it well.” “God was giving me an opportunity.” In another interview, Nancy Heche was quoted as saying, “We connect and we don’t connect. That’s pretty typical. I have a growing relationship, a loving relationship with her. I love her.”

According to the Daily Mail, despite the fact that Nancy Heche has stated that she is an “advocate” for “showing love and respect to the gay community,” she has continued to speak at “homophobic conferences” across the country.

Anne Heche told The Telegraph in 2011 that she had not reconciled with her mother, who at the time was practicing a form of Christian counseling that reportedly “cures” homosexuals. Heche added that her mother had never met her two sons.

Heche was quoted in The Telegraph as saying, “Forgiveness is a funny word for me.” “I’m OK with my mother living her life the way she wants to live it, and I’m OK with her not participating in my life the way I want to live it.”

According to a report in the Daily Mail from the year 2015, Nancy Heche admitted that her daughter had stopped communicating with her. According to Nancy Heche, the speaker, “She made the decision to cut off communication.” Stay tuned with us only on Lee Daily


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